Stupid People

I've come to the conclusion, after reading my last post (which wasn't all that long ago... lol) that there really aren't that many stupid people in the world. Most people know these things I refer to as stupid actions. It's just that they choose not to accept the facts, which I myself am guilty of at times.

There is probably a legitimate reason for this. Mostly, I think it's some form of denial. Anger, frustration, sadness, happiness. Most of it is emotional. It's all a mindset that can be controlled.  The problem is that most of us get caught up in our emotions. We become overpowered by them and in the midst of that we lose our logic and reasoning. This is why I refer to it as ignorance and not stupidity. If I offended you I apologize. What I mean to say is that this ignorance is just a for of temporary insanity and let's face it, insanity is defined by those who are defines as sane. Who's to say our definition of sanity isn't backwards?  

Let's get to what my point is before I bore you with my incredulous banter. My point is that we need to fix this state of mind we are in at our moments of temporary ignorance. We need to stop and breathe; give ourselves time to think before we react. Instead or reacting before we have time to catch our breath. I think this would go a long way towards redeeming our humanity.

I'm not saying that this will fix all of our problems, but I do believe that it may help to put an end to our "backwardsness." Yes I realize that's not a word but you get the picture. Humanity has plummeted into a phase of "backwardsness" where the end seems nowhere in sight. Let's fix this!

Thought's and feelings, please. I'd love to hear your opinions!

The Exception pt. 1

First blog, might as well be controversial if even just a little. Enjoy the first part!

Thought I'd at least get this off my chest and get your opinions. Even negative ones! At least it's constructive. And it probably hurts your feelings more than it hurts mine. :p

                There are those that claim that the age old saying “nice guys finish last” is an illogical and false statement. Someone once told me that they used to be the person who would see a nice person as someone weird. She then went on to explain that she had made the mistake of misjudging but that she had learned from her mistakes. She learned to look beyond the cover and into the pages. To me, this essentially meant that anyone who is or may claim to be an “exception” is inexorably one who settles for anything short of love, especially that which is “at first sight.”

                Many may argue that this is complete bullshit, but those that do have never been there before. These are the people that may claim to have been there, and they may very well have, for a very brief time. They will never understand, or feel anything comparable to this. So if you’re one of these people, just shut the fuck up. Opening your mouth does nothing but pollute the world with your own ignorance. There’s enough of it now that it appears to be contagious.

                I’ve been there. I’ve got enough experience in it now to know that anything you say does not change the facts. You can tell me there are exceptions. Your full of shit and it’s not making me feel any better so why waste your breath? You’re not going to make me feel better by telling me there are more fish in the sea, or that I need to lower my standards, or that I’m looking in the wrong places. This is just once again adding to the ignorance that is plaguing this world. I’m completely certain that there is nothing a person can say that we have neither heard nor thought about. In fact, I can promise you that we’ve had much more time to think about this and many other things that you haven’t in your inconvenient existence.

                Truthfully, what you need to do is just shut up and continue to read. It’s probably about that time in your life where you need to learn something. I’m also positive that you might need to change things up a little in your obnoxiously predictable life.

                That brings me to my first point. Predictability. Women crave spontaneity. Stop lying to yourself. I can hear your internal arguments right now as you read. Yes, life is so much easier when things are planned ahead of time. Things go so smoothly. There’s no chaos, no failure, and no disappointment. Routine is relentlessly boring. There is no excitement. Without that, there is no happiness, and then there is no point in being in a relationship with this person.

                Bad boys? Extremely predictable. Almost anyone can tell you what’s going to happen judging by their actions and never even knowing their name. If you can’t, then once again your ignorance is a plague that desperately needs a cure. Maybe it’s not severe. Maybe this person doesn’t physically abuse, rape, pillage, and murder. But I bet they fight, yell, cuss, scream, treat you like shit, the list goes on. Anything to feel big about themselves, even at the cost of making you feel 2 feet tall. And you love them for it. Guess who that proves is the proud owner of their own stupidity? One day you’ll claim your own Darwin award.

                All that is your own fault. Guess who you call? The one guy that has been nice. You know why? Because you know that no matter what, he’ll always be there for you. He’s the guy that actually does care. But guess what? You’ve deemed your relationship with him to be “just friends” because you “don’t want to lose that.” Here’s a little note for you, when you tell him that, all you’re doing is hurting him and pushing him away. You’re a friend. You’re not supposed to hurt him. You’re supposed to help him. You’re also not supposed to lie to him. Don’t tell him you don’t want to ruin the friendship. Tell him the truth, which is that you’re just not attracted to him and stop being a lying bitch.

                The nice guy is infinitely less predictable then the “bad boy.” Just because he comes running every time you call doesn’t make him predictable. All it means is that he cares about you probably more than anyone else will. This guy will even suffer through listening to you complain about this asshole you’re with, knowing that he could treat you so much better and never hurt you this way. He’ll sit there and hurt so incredibly much listening to you, because he doesn’t care more about himself than you. What he cares about is that he helps you through this, even if that means telling you that you should be with the “asshole” if that’s what you truly want, sacrificing his own desires for yours. That in itself, is something that not a single person, alive or dead, could ever predict.

                But that is just an infinitesimal scratch on the surface on an immeasurable sphere of unpredictability that such a person possesses.

                These are the guys who are romantic. Imagine how creative a person can be in a romantic setting. These people spend time thinking about this. They use the deepest parts of their imagination and perform feats that no one else could even dream of to accomplish perfect romance, if only to see something as small as a smile on your face. They don’t want to take you out to a bar every night, get you drunk, then take you home and take advantage of you when you’re too drunk to even know what’s going on. No, they want to take you out to random places. They want to help you enjoy life. They want to see you smile. They do everything within their power just to make you happy. And in return, you hurt them every time you end up with some other asshole, and then run to them whining about how you wish you could find a good guy. Open your eyes!

                Somehow, humanity has gotten this flipped. This is why stupidity pisses me off. It’s as if no one has common sense anymore. The definition of predictability is really simple and is not one that is open for interpretation. Ok, maybe these people aren’t stupid. Maybe they just don’t want to see things how they really are. They want to believe in perfection. But to completely ignore reality is to contribute to the obliteration of both humanity, and adversely… love.

                Is this really the type of person that you want to be? See, the thing is, the one thing that no one on this earth can take away from us is our ability to choose. A person may choose you, but they can’t have you unless you also choose them. You choose to suffer through your agony rather than fight it. You choose to ignore the good and stick with the bad and then later complain about it. It’s your choice, so why the hell are you making us feel miserable about it? It is true that you shouldn’t suffer in silence. That I agree with. But I have a better solution, quit suffering! Choose to fix it. Get out, get away. It’s obvious that if you’re that miserable now, that you’re always going to be miserable and unhappy.

                What is really in your dreams? I know, you probably don’t remember your dreams. If you don’t, then take a second here. Close your eyes. Relax and breathe in and out deeply and slowly. Imagine you’re breathing in the good, and exhaling the bad. Let your mind wander. See where it takes you. I bet one of two things happen; you either journey through paths in your mind of things that frustrate or anger you that you wish you could change in your life, or you follow another path which leads you to things that both your heart and mind desire.

                Do yourself a favor, throw your priorities out the window because they are obviously completely fucked up. You have no idea what you really want, because if you did, you’d have it and you’d be happy. Kick that arrogant prick that treats you like shit to the curb. And open you fucking eyes!!! Start looking at the people who right in front of you, that are closes to you, a little different. Instead of calling your “best friend” friend up to whine about your miserable life, try imagining how he feels seeing the girl he’s so in love with hurt because she can’t see what’s in front of her. Instead of crying on his shoulder, ask him out, just once. It can’t hurt anything. Tell him to use his imagination and show you how a date should be. I can almost guarantee that you’ll be impressed and blown away.

                Most of all, try to have a little respect for our feelings as we have the utmost respect for yours. Don’t mark us off as weird or “just friends” only because we’re nice, because chances are you’re more likely to lose us as friends when you can’t respect us enough to give us a chance than if you would. Don’t complain to us how miserable you are with your “asshole” when you know damn good and well that it was your choice to be or stay with him and that it hurts us in many more ways than one. Don’t lie to your friends. They don’t lie to you. When they tell you that they love you, they probably mean it unlike others. It’s not weird to love someone. You’re ignorant if you think it is. They probably know you better than “whatthefuckshisname” you’re with. They’ve probably even known you much longer. So the weird one is really “whatthefuckshisname.”

                The point is, start using your brain! You think men are bad about thinking with the “wrong brain”? Take a look in the mirror baby. I bet the resemblance is uncanny. In fact I’m willing to bet that it’s worse. Even guys give nice girls a chance. If you’ve been reading this thinking “he’s not talking about me. I’m not this type of person.” Read above. Refer to the first paragraph. Note yourself as the exception. Congratulations. Now not only are you lying to us, but you’re lying to yourself. Otherwise, heed my advice! Lord knows even I do sometimes, and damn it, I will!